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Hello my beautiful fans!. Yes, if you are reading this... You are a fan and I love that you are!!! 😁😉 It has been a minute! I missed doing this with you, you know?😌...that wasn't a question, by the way.😉
How have you been since my last post? I truly hope with the whole situation happening , you are doing well. I hope your smile still brightens the room. I hope your inner light still shines so bright for the world to see. Continue to exude that grace you carry. You are doing well.🤗

Let's dive straight to the topic of discussion. 

I was strolling  on the streets of Twitter recently and I saw this (please forgive the picture quality).👇 


My first reaction was "Uhmm... what's with the over-calculation?".  I mean, why do we have to play this card just to get the attention of the 'other person'?. To what end and is it even necessary?. 

It just means that whenever a party feels the need to "increase the spark", a DELIBERATE faux gap is created just so the other person can rate them more😒. Very selfish, toxic,  unhealthy and unnecessary, right?... I didn't think otherwise either. 

These days, it is obvious people fear not to do too much just so they don't get to be seen as being 'too mushy', 'too clingy' or be taken advantage of.

I have heard people say "too much familiarity breeds disrespect", but the truth in my opinion is, in a relationship where both parties are reasonable and are happy to respect each other, there's nothing as "overfamiliarity". 

"Overfamiliarity" in this context, might just be your ego taking over your emotions. It could be those insecurities you see when you look in the mirror. So, instead of addressing the issues with "the man in the mirror", you fear and you run from the truth... YOUR TRUTH. Now, you ponder on the best way to win this battle with yourself. To you, you believe the sure way to save you from your own reality is to project your truth on the other person. Tragic, right?. Fix it. Fix you.

Darlings, it's 2020!. Life is beautiful and its beauty should be experienced so why not take the bull by the horn... be happy to own and address your truth, show love and kindness as much as you can, be intentional with your relationships, be happy to love without restraint, allow yourself to love and experience love, allow yourself to be vulnerable, avoid mind-games; communicate more. 

If you do all these and the other person doesn't appreciate it, be happy to go where you are appreciated. Be happy to know that sometimes, it is necessary to let things go and let people be... not because you have stopped loving them but you understand that holding on depreciates the love you have for yourself. So wish them well and embrace peace. You deserve peace and genuine happiness. 

To be fair, I acknowledge this is easier said than done but in the end, be assured that you will be doing yourself a whole good. You will be more in tune with yourself whilst realising that the love you showed and haven't stopped showing has magically find its way back to you... permanently in your arms and forever within your reach. Now, for every unit of love you show to this person, it is reciprocated in quantum leap. A win-win. 😁

So, keep loving with reckless abandon.  Be intentional about it and be happy. Stop with the over-calculation... life isn't that hard.

Until next time, I'm sending love, light and everything nice your way. Please continue to stay safe.

Thank you so much for reading! God bless you!. I love you!.🤗😘❤



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